The Educator Holiday Gift Guide 2017 series is written by Lauren Moore based on interviews with Lotus Blooms educators. It covers OUR holiday season, which runs through Valentine’s Day!
She walks into the room. A fire lights within me. Or maybe the light is coming from behind her, tracing the curves of her figure. I’m dizzy with anticipation. The figure before me stands with authority and a slight, stern smile of knowing what to do–surely this couldn’t be my elegant, demure wife. She quietly crosses the room to where I’m tied to the chair. The lingering, gentle touch along my collarbone reminds me it’s her. She follows the lines of my back, tickling down to my cheeks. It’s her favorite thing to do; only this time, there’s a strap-on grazing my arm. I get lost in the sensations, like the familiar comfort of your favorite shirt. I’m shaken out of my haze as she grabs my hair and leans me back, “Are you ready to be everything I demand?”
This little snippet was inspired by the conversation I had with my coworker Hancie. In case you missed it, lately our blog has been focusing on gift suggestions for your special someone, taken directly from our staff’s brains. Hancie lovingly called her picks “A Femme’s Guide to Wearing a Strap-On”. So if you found the little snippet above tantalizing, read on!
We break down stereotypes and myths in our store daily. When it comes to sex, society has a lot to say about what it means to be masculine versus feminine, giving versus receiving. These conversations always pair these terms with a “versus” as if these are opposing forces to be reckoned with. We say “no more!” Throw this mentality out the window to enjoy these picks.
As Hancie put it, this gift basket is about pretty things and breaking down stereotypes of “giving and receiving”. Treat yourself to a surprise from your partner or indulge your femme partner for the ultimate gift.
SpareParts Joque Harness ($135).
The right strap-on is a perfect combination of comfort and control. The Joque provides great grip around any flared base toy so there isn’t delay between thrusts and the neoprene softness means you can go all night! You can also be comforted by the fact that the harness is machine washable so you can have those soft, controlling nights again and again! Femmes of size, take note– the Joque size B adjusts comfortably up to 65″ with leg holes up to 24″.
Beyond our favorite Joque, SpareParts offers styles across the gender spectrum. There’s a brief-style harness, Sasha, which compromises some control and universal fitting in order to have a sexy full-coverage hipster look. Hancie reminds us that not all femmes looking to wear a harness have a vulva, so there is the dual-hole alternative to the Joque, the Deuce, designed for penis-owners.
La Femme Rouge Teddy ($75).
Every fabulous femme needs a whole ensemble! May we recommend our teddy to go with your strapping strap-on (wordplay deliberately strapped-in)? Teddies look like elegant rompers but ours has an added secret–it’s crotchless! The top has a plunging neckline which flatters all Sapphic busts and is easy to peel off your shoulders in case you’re, um, strapped for time (Ok, that was the last one, promise). Hancie suggests using the folding fabric of the crotchless design to wear the piece OVER your harness and have your toy deliciously peek through.
VixSkin Dual-Density Silicone Toys ($89-139).
VixSkin is a favorite of bloggers, customers, and Lotus Blooms staff alike! Dual-density means that the soft, flexible silicone you feel contains a firm, rigid inner core of silicone giving you an unmatched real-feel. Hancie’s favorite (and our best selling) is by far the Mustang, which boasts a modest but noticeable girth and length–the Goldilocks of dildos, if you will. If you’re not a size queen, we recommend the Spur, which is fantastic for strap-on-receiving beginners. Want a little more brawn to match your lace? Check out the Goodfella–it has attached testicles made of the squishy outer layer silicone. These toys are always in limited supply, so be sure to get them when you can!
Satisfyer Pro 2 Next Generation ($89).
The Satisfyer uses light suction to stimulate all those dainty bits with robust vigor. The Satisfyer comes in Hancie’s favorite color, Rose Gold, so she gushed about how you can take this elegant little number into the tub with your favorite candle or partner (or both!) to get the best experience.
Crave Vesper Vibrator Necklace ($89-99).
An absolute must for the femme in your life! The Vesper serves as a discreet, elegant pendant to wear anywhere (we’re thinking date night) until you’re ready to do more! It has multiple patterns and heats things up–literally! It heats up!** Naturally, Hancie recommends the Rose Gold (versus the Steel) paired with the teddy and strap-on…or nothing but a femme domme grin.
To really clench the ultimate power of your feminity, Hancie suggests either the Slap Happy Crop or the Epona Thin Leather Crop ($39 each) as it adds assertiveness without being visually overwhelming.
Hancie has been with us for a little over a year. She’s been going through a lot of transitions in that time in her personal and professional life, like graduation (it’s months later, but another congrats!), new jobs, and new relationships. It’s been wonderful learning more about her in that time, so I loved how her basket reflected flawless transition from strict gender roles to a “Fuck it, have it all” mentality. It’s about finding yourself and the far reaches of your femininity. Hancie dedicates this basket to our femme customers from all walks of life that choose to be vulnerable in our space and allow us to learn more about the sexual personas they’re drawn to. We love helping you every day to explore yourself and what being femme means to you.
In closing, Hancie and the rest of Lotus Blooms staff want to remind you, pink always goes with leather and don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise!
Check out Lauren’s, Alyssa’s, Diva’s, Teal’s, and Mindi’s gift guides for more gift ideas and product recommendations!
**The author apologizes for the excessive puns. Could have been fired up from writing erotica, could be a little too much sugar this morning. The author endeavors to do better.
